Singles who know what they want. They’re intentional, app-fatigued, and serious about quality over quantity.

Our initial focus is people in their mid-20s to late 40s, as that’s where our pool is currently strongest. However, Shortlist is open to everyone, and we’re expanding into wider age groups as we grow. If we can match you, we will!

If you’re just here to “see what’s out there,” we’re not for you. If you’re seeking substance, you’re in the right place.

Not automatically. Every application is personally reviewed, and we only accept people we believe we can genuinely set up.

We’re based in New Zealand, focused on the major regions and any areas where our list is present.

Of course. Matching is based on fit and who’s on the list at any time. What matters most is that you’re respectful, and seeking a genuine relationship.

Because chemistry isn’t found in your best photo. Blind dates bring back curiosity and connection. We match on lifestyle, values, energy, and vibe, not likes or swipes.

100%. Privacy is our priority. No public profiles, no searchable database. Your details stay with us — and only the essentials are shared with a potential match, with your consent.

Nope — and that’s the point. This is about compatibility and alignment first. Instead, you’ll get a thoughtful intro and have a phone call to sense the vibe before meeting.

It’s not rocket science.

The way we we’re dating today, how we use dating apps — and the gamification of love — has made genuine connection harder to find.

With over a decade working in communications, change, and transformation across New Zealand and the UK, we’ve honed the craft of understanding people — how they think, connect, and navigate complexity. That same clarity shapes how we shortlist: human-led, intuitive, and grounded in lived experience.

We meet everyone personally, and match on values, energy, lifestyle, alignment — and the small details and quirks you won’t find on paper.

While we can’t promise chemistry — that spark is up to you — what we do promise is thoughtful, high-quality introductions, aligned to what you’ve told us you’re looking for.

Because intentional dating works — and fewer matches lead to better ones.

Shortlist is designed to be accessible, intentional and curated.

Each Shortlist package is personalised from the first hello, with post-date feedback used to sharpen future introductions.

Our fee promise means that if we haven’t made an introduction within 12 months, we’ll return half of your package fee.

View pricing options here.

Chemistry can’t be forced and real connection takes time — but if we haven’t made and introduction for you within a year, we’ll return half your package fee.

Of course. It’s always your call. We just encourage keeping an open mind — some of the best connections are unexpected.

Life happens. You can pause anytime, and your dates never expire.

• Focus on one person at a time.

• Have a phone call first – vibe matters early.

• On the fence? Go anyway. The best dates often happen when you least expect them.