Singles who know what they want. They’re intentional, app-fatigued, and serious about quality over quantity.

Our initial focus is people in their mid-20s to late 40s, as that’s where our pool is currently strongest. However, Shortlist is open to everyone, and we’re expanding into wider age groups as we grow. If we can match you, we will!

If you’re just here to “see what’s out there,” we’re not for you. If you’re seeking substance, you’re in the right place.

Not automatically. Every application is personally reviewed, and we only accept people we believe we can genuinely set up.

We’re based in New Zealand, focused on the major regions and any areas where our list is present.

Of course. Matching is based on fit and who’s on the list at any time. What matters most is that you’re respectful, and seeking a genuine relationship.

Because chemistry isn’t found in your best photo. Blind dates bring back curiosity and connection. We match on lifestyle, values, energy, and vibe, not likes or swipes.

100%. Privacy is our priority. No public profiles, no searchable database. Your details stay with us — and only the essentials are shared with a potential match, with your consent.

No — and that’s the point. This is about compatibility and alignment first. Instead, you’ll get a thoughtful intro and have a phone call to sense the vibe before meeting.

It’s not rocket science.

The way we we’re dating today, how we use dating apps — and the gamification of love — has made genuine connection harder to find.

With over a decade working in brand, marketing, communications, change, and transformation across New Zealand, we’ve honed the craft of understanding people — how they think, connect, and navigate complexity. That same clarity shapes how we shortlist: human-led, intuitive, and grounded in lived experience.

We meet everyone personally, and match based on values, lifestyle, energy, preferences, and general alignment — the small details and quirks you won’t find on paper.

While we can’t promise chemistry — that spark is up to you — what we do promise is thoughtful, high-quality introductions, aligned to what you’ve told us you’re looking for.

Because intentional dating works — and fewer matches lead to better ones.

Shortlist is designed to be accessible, intentional and curated.

Each Shortlist package is personalised from the first hello, with post-date feedback used to sharpen future introductions.

Our fee promise means that if we haven't made an introduction within 12 months, we'll return half of your package fee. Any remaining introductions in your package don't expire — we'll keep working to find you a match — though we can't guarantee a specific timeframe.

View pricing here.

Chemistry can't be forced and real connection takes time — but if we haven't made an introduction for you within a year, we'll return half your package fee. Any introductions you haven't used yet stay open with no expiry, and we'll keep working on finding you a match — we just can't promise exactly when.

Good things take time!

Of course. It’s always your call. We just encourage keeping an open mind — some of the best connections are unexpected (we’ve made the match for a reason).

Life happens. You can pause for up to 6 months.

• Focus on one person at a time.

• Have a phone call first – vibe matters early.

• On the fence? Go anyway. The best dates often happen when you least expect them.

Everyone on Shortlist goes through a personal call with our team, where we also confirm ID — so you can trust that who you're introduced to is genuinely who they say they are.

An introduction happens once both people have agreed to connect and had their phone call. If you decide not to go ahead before that point, it doesn't use up one of your introductions.

Just the essentials — first name, age, general area, and a warm summary of who you are (the bio you have approved). We never share your last name, photos, or workplace details before you've met.

Yes — your discovery call is free and no-obligation. It's a chance for us to get to know you and confirm we can genuinely help before you commit to a package.